I talk to a lot of people and you should know that arguments, special about money, happen at many peoples’ houses.Kids – Oh, the little darlings. We love them to pieces, but maybe I love them more than you because I will buy them things you and insist on them earning money. I have heard folks say that they grew up with nothing and they just have to take care of their kids’ needs to the highest possible level. Even, and often, not taking care of their own future needs. I have frequently been able to help folks think in a different way by aksing if this lifestyle:e is what they would advise their children- as adults- to emulate. Do they want their, daughters, for instance, to neglect themselves in the future and give over all their money to the kids? The answer is usually noâ€¦Who earns more- You love each other and need to find a balance with that fact as your focus. If you have separate accounts or divide the bills, in this case you may divide them proportionately, and not simply 50/50, cause that division would not be equitable. I have seen folks with more income be a real bully to the less well-earning partner. That’s not love, kids. Look yourself in the eye and imagine how your activity or behavior would look if you saw it in another couple, your best friends. How would you see that behavior?Family / Ex-family- You may argue because family intervenes in your money lives. Are their grandparents who insist on gifts that make one or both of your uncomfortable? Do you have an ex who makes more than the new family, from whom you still have financial ties of debt ? Speak to a counselor to help you sort out a better approach since this can be all wrapped up in emotions that have nothing to do with the present situation. Be efficient, make things better now!Spending / Saving- It’s not uncommon to have one partner be a spender and the other be more or a saver. These descriptions are neither bad nor good. They are just different and you love that about your baby! But under certain circumstances these differences can be more difficult. Have a talk about how to balance these characteristics and make a lovely and harmonious outcome that uses the best in both of you for your family.Citations:
By- Dr. Joan Marie Pellegrini It is that time of year and the lakes are warming up. As the temperatures rise, we will be spending more time in the water. Because of this, a few of us will get Swimmer’s Ear. This is an infection of the external ear canal that causes pain, itching, a wet and full feeling in ear, pain with jaw movement, drainage from the ear canal, and sometimes neck soreness (from swollen nodes). The CDC estimates that more than half the cases in this country are in adults. So this is not just a problem for children. The most important risk for swimmer’s ear is the duration of exposure of the canal to water that is contaminated. The water from lakes, oceans, and pools all carry risk. I would have thought that a chlorinated pool would be safer. However, this is not true. The chlorine in a pool causes irritation in the canal by accelerating keratin degradation (keratin is found in the protective layer of cells lining the canal) and actually increases the risk of swimmer’s ear (Medscape). So, what can you do to prevent this? First, I should mention some things that you should not do. Don’t try to clear the ear canal before swimming. The ear canal has a natural mechanism of moving wax and dead cells from the inside to the outside. Attempted cleaning can irritate the canal and make infection more likely. Never insert anything into the ear canal. Lots of swimming can wash away the protective wax coating in the canal. In order to protect the skin in the canal, you may use a mixture of vinegar and isopropyl alcohol. Place 2-3 drops in ear canal before and after swimming. If you are particularly prone to this type of infection you may try using ear plugs when swimming. Specialized petroleum coated plugs are available. However, you must avoid getting an accumulation of petroleum in the canal which could block the water that gets in from draining back out. When you get out of the water, try emptying any water in the canal by tilting the head to each side. Pulling on the ear lobe can help empty the water. Also you may use a hair dryer on the lowest setting. Once you have the infection, there are drops that can be prescribed to treat the infection. By no means should you try to clean out the ear canal with anything (including cotton-tipped swabs). If you are on vacation and will need to fly home, you should strongly consider seeking medical attention promptly so that the infection can be optimally treated. This is because the pressure changes in the plane can cause severe pain and some complications. An infection that is left untreated can cause the infection to spread to the inner ear or bone.A useful website:http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001647/
Requires 2 batches http://www.eastmill.com/cook/cakes%20bars%20squares/WhoopeePiesMax.htm 2 3/4 Cup Flour 2 Tbl Buttermilk Powder * 1 Tsp Baking Powder 1 Tsp Salt 1/2 Cup Cocoa Powder 1 1/2 Cups Sugar 1 Tsp Baking Soda 1 Cup Hot Water 1/2 Cup Milk 1/2 Cup Shortening (same as 8 Tbl) (not Hi Ratio) 2 Eggs 1 tsp Vanilla * For real Buttermilk, leave off buttermilk powder and 1/2 cup hot water, use 1/2 cup Buttermilk. If not using buttermilk, sub 1/2 cup milk with 1 tsp vinegar mixed for buttermilk powder and 1/2 cup liquid. Blend Flour and Buttermilk powder before starting. Mix all dry. Then add rest and beat well for four minutes. Should be like pancake batter. Add water as needed. Pour on parchment paper on metal sheet or 16 inch pizza pan, make mound of about 15 inch diameter at less than an inch thick. The max is because most home ovens can not handle a pizza pan over 16 inch size. Bake at 350, cooking time varies by thickness of batter, thick may be done in 8 minutes, thin may take 30 or more. For more of a dome, chill batter for ten minutes before cooking. The max is because most home ovens can not handle a pizza pan over 16 inch size. Watch the baking, when toothpick check is clean, pull and move to a wire rack, the edge can burn if left too long. remove paper for soft cookie, leave on until cool for crunch layer. Then make another batch for the other cookie. After outsides are cool, spoon filling between the two above cookies Whoopee Pie Filling 2 TBL Egg White Powder *** 3/4 Cups Hi Ratio Shortening (same as 12 Tbl) ** 3 Cups Powdered Sugar1/8 Tsp Salt 1/2 Tsp Vanilla 2+ TBL Milk Double the above or make second batch with peanut butter for 16 inch recipe. Mix on high for 15 minutes until smooth, DO NOT SHORT TIME THIS!!! Add milk to reach your choice of filling preference. Give about 5 minutes for the filling to start to fluff up . After cookies are cold, spoon filling between the two cookies. ** Hi Ratio shortening is used by bakers and is fluffier and reduces grease taste.** Sub peanut butter or unsalted butter for 1/2 cup of shortening, if desired*** The use of raw egg whites may be a concern, so use Wilton egg white powder. The original filling had 2 egg whites instead of powder, or you can omit and have less volume. Also, the eggs in the dough was just yokes, saving the whites for filling.
By- Dr. Amy MoviusMedical care is always changing – and not just scientifically. There is a growing appreciation for the “ripple effect” of illness and hospitalization as we understand more about mind and body connection as well as the havoc being sick can wreak on ones life. Perhaps this is most obvious when children are the patients.Providing medical care requires a medical team. Amid the focus on treatment and procedures that surround a child’s illness, the single most important team member to the child, is often the Child Life Specialist (CLS). Most hospitals that provide pediatric care now have a Child Life Program. In the words of the certified CLS I work with daily, her job is to “do everything I can to make (the child) happy and feel better”. This involves more than “getting along with kids” or “liking kids”. Make no mistake, child life specialists are not fancy playmates: they are consummate professionals who have undergone rigorous study and training. This training focuses on the psychosocial needs of children of all ages. They often use therapeutic play to help them cope with and even conquer some of the challenges of being sick or receiving medical treatment that might otherwise be overwhelming. Children process information and experiences differently than adults and so have different needs to help manage difficult circumstances. Even the adults who love these children the most and have only good intentions may not understand or perceive how separate their child’s experience and needs are from their own: much less, how to explain what is happening while coping with their own stress surrounding their child’s condition. The services a CLS provides are many: a few examples of areas of expertise are below:1. Ease a child’s fear and anxiety with play.2. Foster an child friendly environment. 3. Provide medical preparation and support for children.4. Advocate family involvement/presence.5. Consider needs of siblings or other children affected by the illness.6 Support family with grief/bereavement.Feedback surveys leave no doubt as to the high value patients place on Child Life Services. However, it is not only the right thing to do, it is also good medicine. Research suggests that using child life services helps to contain medical costs by reducing hospital length of stay for children and decreasing the need for pain medicine. Lastly, the healthy coping skills developed during such an experience can be built upon for a lifetime.Reference:1. Child Life Services. American Academy of Pediatrics Policy Statement. Child Life Council Committee on Hospital Care, 20062. Child Life Council, Inc. www.childlife.org
The wedding is a ceremony at which you and your future spouse make a lifetime commitment of love. Those who witness the ceremony pledge to support you both during the struggles and victories of your many wonderful years together. The average wedding costs more than $20,000 with some articles I researched saying as high as nearly $30,000. Poppycock, that’s what I say about that! That’s a lot of money for most families and I think it would be wiser to spend less and make progress towards your future togetherâ€¦ A wedding isn’t the day you are crowned king or queen. Try to balance the importance of the ceremony with the party to which you are looking forward.Who’s paying?- Some families can pay for all of your dreams, and it might be the bride or groom’s family. In some cases certain special elements of the wedding, such as the wedding dress or the honeymoon, are paid by grandparents or aunts or uncles. It is important to be clear about their budget and grateful for their kindness. Of course, if you are paying for everything, you can do what you’d like. Budget even less – On one site, Brilliant Wedding Pages, I read a very practical and helpful budget tip: cut your budget back so that unanticipated expenses will not crush you and cause your happy day to be stress-filled. Hidden expenses- what are some of the expenses you may not think of? Dress alterations, gift for your future spouse, stamps, favors, marriage licenses, and more add up. Recognize they exist and prepare. Suggested amount to save for that ‘rainy day’ is 5% of the budget, some suggested as high as 20%. Cheaper alternatives?- Put on your thinking cap and see if you can figure out creative ways to save, without losing your mind. You will be busier and busier as the wedding approaches. You need to balance out saving and additional tasks organized – or done – by you, with being relaxed enough and awake enough to enjoy the ceremony and the reception. Some tips: used gowns, unusual favors, picking a time of day or day of the week out of the norm, rings from estates, online or on lay-away. Use your very clever noggin and be realistic. Sometimes you realize that certain aspects of the wedding are crucial to you. Try to figure out where you can cut back but what is really important to you. Keep the REAL focus- Ultimately, this is a ceremony of your commitment and love with the people whom you most love. It’s not about the dress. If you faced a terrible tragedy you might be better able to put this day in perspective. It’s not about money or outdoing others. Keep the focus. Citations:Suggested percentages-
Blairsville, PA 45% (90 votes) Santa Monica, CA 11% (22 votes) Lynn, MA 25% (50 votes) Waterloo, IA 19% (40 votes)
By- Dr. Jonathan woodWhat does that mean? â€œExercise is medicineâ€â€¦?We think of medicine as something that:â€¢ You take to makes you feel better when you are ill (e.g. pharmaceuticals, etc)â€¢ You get when pills donâ€™t work to cures illness (e.g. surgery, angioplasty, etc)â€¢ You get to prevent or detect illness or disease (e.g. immunizations, mammograms, etc)What if there was something that was repeatedly shown to do all three? Wouldnâ€™t we call it â€œmedicineâ€?Improving our fitness has been repeatedly shown to do all three! So – – exercise is medicine. This concept is the focus of a recent initiative by the American College of Sports Medicine appropriately called â€œExercise is Medicineâ€. Their goal is to raise awareness of the facts and emphasize the proven benefits of improved fitness on overall health and specifically on the treatment and prevention of chronic diseases. The World Health Organizationâ€™s most recent Global Health Risks data (2004) rates physical inactivity at the 4th leading cause of death globally behind high blood pressure, tobacco use, and high blood glucose. Many feel we are in the midst of an â€œinactivity epidemicâ€, but few in the USA are truly aware of this.Some facts that you might not know:â€¢ Older adolescents and adults spend almost 8 hours/day in sedentary behaviorsâ€¢ 36% of adults engage in no leisure-time activity at allâ€¢ Low levels of fitness pose a bigger risk of death than mild-to-moderate obesityâ€¢ Active people in their 80â€™s have a lower risk of death than inactive people in their 60â€™sâ€¢ Low levels of physical activity expose patients to greater risk of dying than smoking, obesity, hypertension, or high cholesterolâ€¢ Regular physical activity has been shown in several studies to reduce the risk of many chronic diseases by alarming amounts:o Colon cancer â€“ over 60% reductiono Stroke â€“ 27% reductiono Heart disease and high blood pressure â€“ almost 40% reductiono Type II diabetes â€“ 58% reductiono Alzheimerâ€™s disease â€“ almost 40% reductiono and there is much moreâ€¦Additionally, regular physical activity in adolescents has been shown to lead to higher SAT scores and for younger children, it results in improved classroom behavior and less discipline issues in elementary schools.So, again, not only is exercise medicine, it seems to be better than what most of us traditionally think of as â€œmedicine.â€ Use the medicine! It may not always be easy, but it sure seems to be worth it!For more info and some specific suggestions, please visit the Exercise is MedicineÂ® website: http://exerciseismedicine.org
Kids and summer can be a great time for jobs. But what can they do and how much supervision do they need? Here are some ideas that may work at your house.Passion- What do they like? Though we know as grown-up we sometimes have to do jobs we don’t like, that’s not what out goal is for our lifetime work. So, why not try to plug your cutie into something they might really DO because they not only like the extra money but they also like the work?Working for others- Ideas- Pet care (while neighbors are on vacation or for the summer.) babysitting. Red cross offers babysitting training courses through the Bangor Y that would make your little pumpkin well equipped. The kids could do direct sales with a firm you like. Computer skills put to work and tutoring other kids.Working for the family- Are there jobs where your baby could do work above and beyond the usual? Might there be extensive gardening or building projects for which you could hire a kid? Maybe cousins could work a few hours and then send them off for fun? I always found a little work mixed in a summer day gave just enough ‘shape’ to the day, just enough needed focus, that the rest of the day proceeded with very few squabbles. Always an answer to every parent’s prayerâ€¦ Citations:Red Cross-